Embarrassment is perhaps tripping and falling down in front of someone. Humiliation is tripping and falling down in front of someone who then points it out to a group of people. They all laugh at you and you perhaps shift from embarrassment ("I can't believe I tripped. Whoops. Well everyone does it") to humiliation ("They are pointing out how I fell and others are laughing at me") to shame ("I am so clumsy and stupid for falling over. I can't believe what a klutz I am!"). Do you see the distinction?
Blame is an interesting word and can have a negative connotation to it because of the feelings it can create. Blame is not severe like shame. It does not necessarily lead to feelings against your self, although it could. However, we want to be aware of the word because of what it can do: decrease … Continue reading Lions (Shame), Tigers (Blame), and Bears (Humiliation) – Oh my! : Why Blame Can Halt Growth
As George Takei would say, "Ohhhhhh Myyyy". Oh my, indeed. This series of articles is going to explore some of the most prevalent and toxic components of leadership and workplaces. It happens nearly in every company and often without any notice because we simply see it as normal leadership tactics. I'm going to be pulling … Continue reading Lions (Shame), Tigers (Blame), and Bears (Humiliation) – Oh My! (Part 1)
I swear I should have been born in Canada based on how naturally apologetic I am. I am a peacemaker at heart which can result in my selflessness becoming a doormat if I am not conscientious about it. Now sometimes simply apologizing for a way you handled something rather than taking on blame is acceptable. It still … Continue reading Stop Apologizing Unless It’s Your Fault